Hi my name is Grace and I make my husband uncomfortable by how many pictures I take

I take a lot of photos. Fun fact: every photo that appears on this blog is either a photo I took or a photo someone else took (typically with my camera) of me.

I like taking photos.

I’m better about it now… but when I first started this blog, I used to bring my camera with me every single time I left the house. I was terrified something “amazing” (once in a lifetime shot) would happen – and I would just miss it. The only logical solution meant bringing my camera with me everywhere I went, even to the bathroom (because, hey, sometimes public bathrooms have funny signs).

Like this little gem I found a couple weeks ago in Chofu (near Tokyo)

Like this little gem I found a couple weeks ago in Chofu (near Tokyo)

Looking back, I think I was just scared I would miss something.

Back when I started this blog, my future was very uncertain. I was studying abroad in Tokyo – and had been dating this cute Japanese boy for about a year. I knew that when my study abroad finished, I would be returning to America. I didn’t even write about my boyfriend on my blog, because I wasn’t sure what our future was going to look like (and didn’t want my words of devotion coming back to bite me later).

Uncertainty transferred into hundreds of photos every month. Just in case. Just in case I blinked and all of this was magically gone – I wanted something to remember my time in Tokyo by.

I wanted to know that at one time I was loved and in love, living in Tokyo and trying my hardest to be the kind of person I could feel proud of. And even though my boyfriend (jokingly?) told me my photo taking was embarrassing, I didn’t stop.

I didn’t want to stop.

When it came time to pick a URL for this blog, I went with “HowIBecameTexan.com” instead of “TexaninTokyo” because honestly, I didn’t know how much longer I was going to be a Texan in Tokyo.

But then my boyfriend proposed on our one year anniversary, with a engagement ring hidden in my glove. I said yes.

I turned in some paperwork so I could graduate college early (I had the credits, but before Ryosuke came along, I had no incentive to speed up my graduation). We got married. We moved back to Tokyo and Ryosuke started working straight away at a traditional Japanese company.

I still take a lot of pictures… but much less now.

My future is a lot more certain. Ryosuke worked at that company for about a year before he quit to help me manage “Texan in Tokyo” (the blog, YouTube channel, and books) which was a huge leap of faith at the time but we’re both glad he did it.

Now I get to spend every day with the person I love, doing a job I love, living in a country I love.

And last time I asked, I only make my husband mildly uncomfortable with the amount of photos I take.

(last night's dinner)

(last night’s dinner)

About Grace Buchele Mineta

I got into the writing business by accident. Now I live in the countryside near Tokyo with my husband, Ryosuke, where I draw comics, blog, and make videos about our daily life. Contact: Website | More Posts

25 Comments on Hi my name is Grace and I make my husband uncomfortable by how many pictures I take

  1. OMG, I’m so proud of you. I have the same inclination to take photos of everything. (One would think my skill would have improved by now, but I’m very amatuerish.) I get embarassed, though. Maybe that’s why I lack the skills still yet. I am so happy to hear that you are similar in the sense of taking so many pictures as to be embarassing. HI FIVE! You’ve inspired me to just pull that camera out and take any pics I want!

  2. I only have my phone for pictures, but I do take a lot of photos. Mainly of food. Actually, a concerning number of my photos are of food.

    The others are scenery pics that I plan to draw later but never do. Because logic.

  3. Funny toilet explanation !

  4. Hi Grace, you are not alone in that sentinent, I like taking photos, in a way it was mainly to improve my phototgraphy. When I started taking photos of my children and their sports rugby team, or photos of a object, something simple like a flower, It was never right, or spot on, there was always a glitch or out of focus, worse off, there was no picture of my favourite object and to top it off, I even forget to put the memory card in. When I’m alone, I click away when it is an interesting object, finding shadows and getting the light right. so I am still learning, so click away anytime., theres always room for improvement when it is just me on my own, so Cheers

  5. I take much less photos now than when I first arrived here, it’s natural as life gets more normal I guess.

    I found I take way more photos when I travel alone than when I travel with other folks, why is that I wonder?

    • Shannon // 20 May, 2016 at 2:28 am //

      I typically do the same when I travel (which is rare unfortunately), I think its because when you’re alone you don’t have anyone to remember with you but when you’re with friends and family, you all remember it and you can all discuss it but when you’re solo if you forget something, no one can you help you remember because no one knows what you forgot because they weren’t with you.

  6. I’m so glad you wrote this! I just started my blog and I’m taking my camera everywhere as well. My boyfriend finds it funny that I concentrate so much while taking pictures of our food xD

  7. Howdy! Nice to meet a fellow Texan. Lived in Tokyo a long time and love it. Happy to know I am not the only one that takes a camera everywhere. Are you on Instagram? If so, please look me up @terryac :-)

  8. Anonymous // 16 May, 2016 at 2:50 am //

    I’m [kind of] in a situation similar to yours years ago. I’m studying abroad in Japan (actually stumbled upon your blog through a Google search of ICU), I want to live/work in Japan afterwards…but I have no idea what the future holds for me. Your blog post makes me believe that whatever happens, it’ll be alright in the end c:

  9. Anonymous // 15 May, 2016 at 10:54 pm //

    You have interesting thoughts towards taking photos and I can only agree with you.
    I took lots of them any time I felt the moment would be lost and wouldn’t be coming back. (But I’ve gotten quite lazy at that.)
    Though, I still like looking through photo albums a lot because memory fades with time and in everyday life there’s hardly any time to think about the nice things that have happened just a while ago.

    • Yeah! I was terrified about losing the moment – and forgetting things. These days I look through my old albums about once a month and am astonished by how much I’ve forgotten.

  10. Taking photos is really nice! For me, it’s rather rare (taking photos, I mean), and I wish I could take more, but since I’m the way I am (too shy at times), I kind of find it weird walking around and snapping random pictures every now and then. I feel like the people walking around are giving me weird stares, or maybe it’s just my imagination…

    • Hahaha. That’s one of the reasons I stopped (aside from the fact that you can only take pictures of funky vending machines SO many times before it gets weird) – I always felt like people were giving me weird stares.

  11. At least it’s not all of yourself. You could make a scrapbook and add journal entries or captions to it so you could remember those moments. Just a thought.

  12. I really like reading posts about when you look back on where you were a few years ago to where you are now. It makes me feel a little more OK about the future.

  13. My husband has learned to hesitate in the car if I grab my camera. He buys me micro SD card for presents. My neighbors know if I’m outside I’m taking pictures. I have external drives filled with pictures. Today I took tons of my friend’s pond, lilies, cats and dogs. I’m a cloud and sunset freak. My friends know my instagram is always cranking out pictures.

  14. That bathroom sign is so condescending to Chinese people lol. It’s made just for them. “In Japan, we SHUT THE DOOR while we’re using the bathroom.” (underlying tone: YOU UNCIVILIZED SWINE!)

  15. Eric Janson // 15 May, 2016 at 10:02 am //

    LOL, I love taking shots of all the wonderful and different things. My wife shudders sometimes. But every so often magic happens and you get an astounding photo. Even without the occasional home run it’s great fun to go through them in a slack moment. KEEP it up!

  16. I’m exactly the same when it comes to taking pictures.

  17. there can never be enough pictures

  18. I love taking photos, too. We lost years of photos in a mysterious computer glitch. I think I’m making up for those.

  19. OK, I have to ask: who was the one that decided to stand on the toilet? Because I can’t imagine that prohibition being there if somebody didn’t attempt it earlier.

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