I’m a sucker for accents. I really am.
I didn’t realize how much I love accents until I landed myself in a college in rural Pennsylvania – a college full of predominantly white, middle-to-upper class students.
It’s difficult to explain why college was such a hard time for me, but I think part of it stems from the fact that I went to three different high schools on three different continents. Or that my parents have lived in Ghana on and off (mostly on) for the last ten years and my husband and my favorite hobby is traveling.
One of the (many) reasons I had such a hard time in college was because that college was one of the least international places I have ever lived. I was surrounded by swarms of people who looked just like me (white) but who I had virtually nothing in common with.
My husband was a breath of fresh air – something so comfortably different. I felt like I could finally be myself again. I clung to him as hard as I could and lucky for me, he clung right back.
Looking back, our relationship might not have been the healthiest relationship in the world, but then again, what college relationships are? We’ve managed to work past (most of) that and have grown a lot. Yay for us.
Moving on – accents.
Accents are sexy.
It’s funny, though, because when I’ve mentioned in passing that I am very, very attracted to accents, the typical response is:
“I know! British/French/Spanish accents are so yummie! I love [insert European actor].”
Which usually turns into a conversation about which actors with yummie accents we all want to date (because we’re women and apparently we’re all walking stereotypes).
This is where it gets kind of weird.
When someone inevitably asks what accent I’d want to date, I point out that I am (in fact) married to someone with a sexy accent.
Clue blank look. And then a slow, dawning realization.
My husband has an accent.
It’s a Japanese accent.
A lot of people discount Japanese accents because when someone was designing the ‘blueprint for what accents are considered sexy,’ Japanese (or Asian, Indian, African, etc) accents somehow didn’t make the list.
I think that’s a shame.
I find my husband’s accent sexy – but I know that I’m in the vast minority who do.
There isn’t really a point to this post, to be honest, except to point out the unconscious bias we all have about accents. I thought I was going to come up with some sort of brilliant epiphany while I was writing, but I didn’t. Sorry. Not sorry. Please put your own brilliant epiphany and/or thoughts in the comments section!