The 7 reasons I want to quit Blogging (And the 3 reasons why I won’t)

I dream of quitting. I dream of quitting all of this – my channel, my blog, and my books on Amazon/Etsy.

Poof. Gone.

And one of the many benefits of self-publishing is that you really can just remove everything with a couple of clicks. If I wanted to, I could disappear right off the internet. I could go back to just being “normal” (whatever that means).

But as much as a fantasize about leaving this life behind, I know deep in my heart that I won’t ever actually do it.

This – this thing (whatever it is) – is my calling.

Why I want to quit:

1. The haters (of course)

I’m going to be honest here, 99% of the time, the horrible, hateful comments don’t bother me. They used to bother me, of course, but I rose to fame gradually enough that I had plenty of time to adjust.

It helps to remember that when people write vile, attacking things on the internet, it’s not about me. And if they’re writing them to you on your blog/page/channel, it’s not about you either.

It’s about them.

I learned this one day after clicking on the profile of an especially offensive commenter, only to discover they had copy + pasted the exact same comment on a half a dozen other YouTube channels (something along the lines of “white trash” and “I hope you die”).

It’s really not about me.

My page is just another platform they can use to spread their hateful message.

But every once in a while, when I check my business Gmail account and get an email with the subject line in full caps “I HOPE YOU DIE OF CANCER,” it sucks. Even more so when you find out that they’ve posted that same phrase as a reply to every single nice comment on your fan Facebook page. And you have to spend the next fifteen minutes deleting a string of racist and offensive phrases before anyone else sees them – because how much does it suck when you leave a comment on someone’s fan page saying “I loved your video!” and some stranger tells you that you’re *&@^#.

I wish I could say this hasn’t happened, but it has. Several times. Facebook really needs a better blocking system.

[For more, check out The Emotional “Cost” of Blogging: The not-so-secret downside to writing about your life on the internet]

2. You can’t disappear or go on vacation – because there are always comments to monitor

I get nervous if I don’t check all my social media profiles at least twice a day.

When Ryosuke and I first moved out to the countryside, we didn’t have wifi for a week and a half. It shouldn’t have been a problem, because I had posts, videos, and comics scheduled to automatically post for the next two weeks.

Sadly, things are rarely that simple.

Even though I had things scheduled to post for the next two weeks, I was anxious. Why? Because for whatever reason, YouTube doesn’t allow you to access your account from a smartphone. For the five days before we had internet, I wasn’t able to monitor comments. I lasted three and a half days before I  caved and went to a cafe in Shibuya with wifi. In the mean time, someone with a lot of free time went and posted some very racially inappropriate words as a “reply” for anyone of a profile picture of someone who is black.

Things kinds of things happen all the time. 

We have to bring a laptop whenever we travel, because this is the internet. A lot of bad things can happen in a very short period of time.

“Safe spaces” cannot exist without someone to regularly monitor and kick out trolls.

3. The negative effect these hateful comments have on your friends and family

I’m just going to come out here and say that from the bottom of my heart, I feel absolutely horrible for the siblings, children, spouses, and parents of celebrities.

People don’t realize that when you say horrific things about that one actress you don’t like on some forum, there is a chance that their friends and/or family might see that comment. And be very hurt.

I get it if you don’t like Taylor Swift (personally, I adore her). But when you call her an “ugly, white trash failure” (or something worse – hey after being subjected to all sorts of horrible names, I’ve become incapable of crafting my own), imagine her brother accidentally read what you wrote.

And then imagine someone wrote that about your father or sister or best friend.

Your father, who is the one of the most hardworking, loyal, and supportive people you know.

Your sister, your sweet, innocent sister who used to have tea parties with her stuffed animals and cried when you went off to college.

Your best friend, who has just started to get help for her eating disorder and is doing so much better. And then you read a comment saying “I hope that fat cow drowns in her own blood.”

These are people.

Behind these public personas, these are real, living, breathing, hurting people.

It sucks. I feel awful for anyone who is the family member of a celebrity… and I am absolutely terrified about doing the same thing to my friends and family.

I’m used to it negative comments. I don’t care. But they do. And God forbid anyone who loves me ever try to defend my name on the internet – you cannot win against trolls.

Something like this happened recently, with one of my best friends from college. Someone had posted on of my articles on a Facebook group she belonged to, where a particularly angry and vicious individual had a lot of things to say. Thankfully, after a couple rounds, my friend walked away.

Her experience really got me thinking. I don’t want to hurt the people I love. I don’t want them to have to read all the vile, nasty, jealous things that people with too much time and too much hate in their heart write (like in this Dilbert comic). I feel powerless to protect the people I care about and it kills me.

If you’re reading this and you see someone bashing me on a forum, don’t defend me.

Please, just walk away. There’s no way to win.

4. It’s stressful always creating good content

My creativity comes in waves. Sometimes I can write and draw wonderful things all day – and sometimes everything my fingers create that day is complete crap.

With any luck, my creative days outweigh my uncreative days… but it really depends.

5. No matter what you post, people will find a way to get offended

Once again, I’m going to link to this Dilbert comic.

6. Viral media sucks.

There are plenty of good and bad things about internet. Viral media can be either… but most of the time, it’s a bad thing.

You’re always just one miss-post or bad tweet away from the weight of the internet crushing you and spitting you out. If you’re lucky, when the internet is done with you, you will still have your job, friends, privacy, and sanity.

People have been fired, stalked, threatened, and gone to therapy after one “mistake.”

7. The drama

I’m just going to start by saying that I love the vast majority of bloggers, YouTubers, authors, and creatives that I’ve had the pleasure of meeting in person.

But I don’t like everyone (of course).

Sometimes I meet someone and immediately dislike them. I don’t know why – it’s just a gut feeling. I can’t explain it.

In normal situations, this wouldn’t be a problem.

But in the blogosphere and YouTube community, there is an emphasis on us all being “one big happy family.” We all comment on each others posts and share each others videos. We’re supposed to be the best of friends (if only by appearance).

Needless to say, both communities are filled with drama. People get jealous. People stab each other in the back. People post things that they shouldn’t. People get frustrated and angry at each other. And all of it is on the internet.

Being famous (even “mildly internet famous” like me) can be occasionally sucky. There are a lot of reasons I want to quit… but like I said before, I know I won’t ever actually stop.

There are the three reasons why I won’t ever quit creating things on the internet:

1. I love creating things

I really love creating things.

The job I have right now – where I draw comics, make videos, and write about my life on the internet – is the best job I’ve ever had. I absolutely love it.

Unfortunately, as I said before, creating things comes with the nasty side-effect that you have to deal with trolls, haters, and rather vile people (especially in this day and age – where they can easily harass you online).

But even people like that can’t take my love of creating things away from me.

2. If everyone stopped creating, risking, dreaming, daring – the world would be a very boring place.

In my spare time, I read books.

I read a lot of books, actually. These days, I’m averaging one to four books a week, during working breaks, on commutes into Tokyo, and laying out in the hammock on weekends.

For as long as I can remember, books have been my refuge and I can’t imagine what my life would have been like without them. Books helped me through the rough adolescent years, the constant moving, and when I needed to just get outside of my own head.

I hope one day to inspire people in the same way.

I’ve written three books, actually. I’m proud of those books, if just for the fact that I can help transport someone to another world (ie, my world) for a couple of hours, as they flip through the pages.

I’m sure all my favorite authors deal with harsh criticism… and yet they kept creating because they knew that without art/creativity/books/movies, the world would be a very boring place.

This, of course, leads into my last (and most important) reason that I won’t ever quit making books and videos.

3. Because the people I admire most in life can’t (or won’t) quit either.

Unlike me, my heros don’t have a button they can press, to magically erase everything they’ve ever created (and therefore erasing their problems). And for the few who do have said button, they choose not to press it.

I’m lucky because I can quit this whole “internet celebrity” thing whenever I want to. I could erase my blog, channel, and books and move to America, getting a regular job at a regular office. No one would ever know (except for my close friends and family, of course).

This helps remind me that whatever I do, I do willingly.

The fact of the matter is, I would not be who I am today, without my heroes.

Beyonce’s song “Halo” was the song I listened to, pumping myself up to ask the cute Japanese boy down the hall in college to dinner. Now I’m married to him.

Tina Fey’s autobiographical comedy book inspired me to chase after my own dreams, even if they didn’t make sense.

John Green’s “The Fault in Our Stars” (who am I kidding, all his other books too) gave me the courage to write my own book, even though I had no idea what I was doing. Now I am the proud author of three books.

Taylor Swift’s music gave me the courage to embrace my own style, even if it didn’t fit in with what everyone else wore (Japanese fashion just doesn’t suit me). “Shake it Off” is also my current go-to song after purging nasty YouTube comments (I have filters that automatically sort out comments that use the words n*gger, c*nt, etc – but I still have to manually delete them).

Seeing how Amy Poehler, Tina Fey, Emma Watson, Beyonce, John Green, Taylor Swift, Brian Jacques, Anna Akana, and all my other heroes live their lives is an inspiration. They gave me the courage and resilience to keep going.

Trust me, there were plenty of times when I was younger that I just wanted to lie down and give up. I felt massively uncomfortable with myself and no idea what I wanted to do with my life. 

If these people had quit because of the haters and the trolls… well, I don’t know where I would be right now. Some of those people saved my life, more than they will ever know.

I can’t thank these people – and all the others – enough for being so brave, strong, creative, and brilliant.

But I can keep the chain going. I can try to inspire someone else, the same way they inspired me.

And guess what? I know I am.

I get messages every day from people who claim that my blog/books/videos changed their life. That now they’re trying to self-publish their own book, start their own channel, start their own online store, run their own blog, write their own travel memoir.

This is bigger than me. I owe it to my heroes to pay it forward.

Photo from a couple days ago, on vacation in Okinawa

Photo from a couple days ago, on vacation in Okinawa

About Grace Buchele Mineta

I got into the writing business by accident. Now I live in the countryside near Tokyo with my husband, Ryosuke, where I draw comics, blog, and make videos about our daily life. Contact: Website | More Posts

55 Comments on The 7 reasons I want to quit Blogging (And the 3 reasons why I won’t)

  1. Frederick // 8 March, 2016 at 1:32 pm //

    Totally agree with you, Grace! Thanks for the continued inspiration.

  2. Thank you Grace, for keeping this on, for continuing to share every experience in your life and for being brave to continue, I can assure you 100% that I am one of the individuals that feels inspired when I see your content and your creations, and it really makes me happy to see that you decide to stay, even with all its drawbacks.
    Thank you.

  3. David Humerly // 18 August, 2015 at 3:32 pm //

    To be that honest and put yourself out in the open is a really brave thing to do. Doing this while also dealing with haters must suck, but you keep coming back to it. Most people can’t handle such. That makes you hardcore.

    “Even the strongest and bravest must sometimes weep. It shows they have a great heart, one that can feel compassion for others.” – Brian Jacques (Redwall)

  4. Anonymous // 15 July, 2015 at 1:46 pm //

    Thank you for sharing.

  5. Anastasia // 19 June, 2015 at 11:24 pm //

    Thank you, Grace! One question – who are your favorite writers? (I ask, because read a lot of books too and very interested)1!

  6. William T Walker // 15 June, 2015 at 7:23 am //

    We love what you are doing. Thank you for sharing your creativity and entertainment with all of us. It is delightful. Don’t let the haters get you down, they are idiots. We were stationed in Japan in our military days, our daughter was born there. Your work is so entertaining and informative. Thank you so much.

  7. I can’t imagine the stress of having trolls constantly making their mark on the things that you work hard to create and express to the world. But even more importantly, every time I see a new video on your YouTube channel or post/comic on your blog, I’m inspired by your drive to create and pull through the negative anonymity that the Internet is so famous for.

    Creativity is a fickle thing to have and be driven by. It’s kind of like being a superhero in a way, without the flashy costumes.
    It’s not about superhuman strength, but strength to make things happen.
    Keep your creative spirit alive Grace!

  8. Keep doing what you do Grace, don’t let the haters stop you! Also, idk if this helps but on your youtube channel you can list certain words/phrases that you don’t want appearing in the comments section, which would immediately block certain comments from appearing in the first place.

  9. Anonymous // 12 June, 2015 at 1:40 am //

    Grace, every time I read your blog I feel inspired.
    You’re out there living the life that I want to someday. Seeing how you make it all work gives me hope that someday I can too.
    Every time your blog updates it brightens my day and I share your posts with my friends and family. You’re so beautiful and funny, and the honesty you put into your posts is so refreshing.
    Whatever you decide to do with your life (be that continue blogging or stop one day) I will support you =) You do whatever makes you happiest! We all wish you the best!

  10. madhmama // 12 June, 2015 at 1:27 am //

    Amazing post Grace, I can so relate…… When we live our life with such an open book there are bound to be haters. I leave my comments section open so that my blog can be a forum for intercultural couples, but to be honest, the majority of the time it becomes my commenters attempting to bash me, my feelings, and my choices. I have been told that I’m a bad mother, and somebody has wished my then 18 months old daughter dead. These are the types of silent sufferings that others don’t understand. It hurts a lot.
    But at the same time, I don’t want to be silent. I don’t want to live in fear. I want to make more opportunities for myself. I want to be honest. I want to share knowledge and stories with other intercultural couples.
    Last time we went on vacation, I got my college-aged cousin to moderate the comments….it was the best thing!

  11. I love your bloc, your comics and your channel. I think you’re making yourself too much pressure. You just try to approach things a little looser an delete all hater Mails and comments ;-)

  12. While I’m not famous to really emphatize with what you’re going through, I definitely understand! The internet can be a very, very harsh world and it sucks that sometimes, even the most honest intentions are twisted into something bad. But it’s all about ignoring them and knowing full well that what you’re doing sits well with you and the people you treasure :) Keep on blogging Grace!

  13. Trolls … I have been on internet for some time now and I saw some trolls around. One of my friend suffered because of one of them. Trolls will always be trolls no matter what you say and what you do …they will always return to be haters. I really cant understand them. Seriously, when I dont like someone or something, I just dont loose time on them. I just go away and love what I love. TIme is precious and life is short, so I feel like I should just spend it doing what I love and encouraging the person I like. I guess that some haters just dont realize that there is someone behind the screen…someone that might get really hurt by what you say.

    Anyway, I love reading your blog and enjoy watching your vlogs ! Thanks for continuing to do that even with the down sides of web adventure.

  14. Grace, First thank you and Ryosuke for everything that you do and have done for the many of us young and old and from various ethnicities. You have more supporters out there who have been and still are encouraged, inspired, educated, uplifted, empowered, renewed by you and the list goes on. Some of us are silent and private people (introverts) who once in a while see something which is worth noticing and take notice. I enjoy your videos, commentaries, photos, dialog etc. Take a break, time off, vacation, time-out or whatever is needed to regain any lost strength you may need to push forward. Do Not assign the negative individuals who come against you any power over you, your thoughts or your work. We see an example of two nice people sharing their experiences and life in Japan. Through you, I(We) get to travel to various places in Japan which we otherwise could not. We need more people like you whose light shines bright. As for the those who have nothing positive or supportive to say…practice guarding your heart and keep deleting!

  15. this post inspired me so much. thank you.

  16. and this is just another reason why i love your blog ,comics & channel, i wont stop liking it all because it comes from a good person/s, and the smile i tend to get from reading can at times be one of the few i have in a day . lol i’ll try my best not to fed the trolls but sometimes it can be really hard, but since you asked i’ll try even harder.Keep on doing what fufills you! if it ever gets to the point you feel you have to quit know that many of us out here understand & will suport any decision you make, after all it is your life not ours!

  17. You’re such an inspiration for sharing this, I can’t even imagine why would anyone hate on your blog since your mindset is always so fresh and your comics are sweet and entertaining. I’ve only discovered you recently (and binged on way too many of your videos) and I have to say when I saw the first line of the post title my heart sank – since I was only starting to get myself familiar with your blog. So glad the reasons that keep you going outweigh the negatives by far!

  18. To add a #4 to reason why you shouldn’t quit is your actual LOYAL readerbase and fanbase. I had a similar situation in my blog and a lot of what you said echos exactly what had happened to me….but I kept going because I like to write, I like to review the games I play and I know that despite the mass of haters, there’s a mass of followers who don’t give a crap and will continue to read my blog. :)

  19. I guess you’ve done a pretty good job deleting or blocking the worst racist comments, because I rarely see them on your blog or your YouTube channel. I know it’s a drag to have to do that, but the fact that the comments are mostly troll-free encourages me to read them and to comment myself.

  20. First, you’re awesome.
    Second I don’t have any experience with haters yet. So I can’t relate.

    And the last one: I am 100% with you if it comes to the blogging familly. I think a lot people see the blogging world as a pink unicorn place. It isn’t.
    Everyone want to be friend at first, and like always having too many “friends” just mean you don’t have any deep relation with any.
    I think a lot of people start blogging expected they will be welcome to the blogger community and they find the lonelyness hard and disappointing.

    And I’ve seen someone mentionned Disqus. It may be a good way to filter even more.

    You’re a big source of inspiration for a lot of people. You speak a lot about love, you’re a positive person. I think it’s hard to distance yourself from haters. I hope you receive the support of “your niche”.

    Keep the good work :)

  21. As a beginning blogger myself, I’ve found your successes and struggles on the internet both inspiring and sobering. I must admit I found it hard to believe, if only for a moment, that words so informative and entertaining could ever inspire the kind of vile nonsense I’ve so often seen elsewhere–yet, there it is. Still hard to believe, but only because I (and we) like and want to think well of others, even total strangers, and to do otherwise would be to invite isolation and paranoia. Yet, there it is; the internet really does bring out the absolute worst in people. I’m as convinced of that as I am of anything now.

    I think it’s to your credit, and to the credit of the entire cybersphere, that we still find this cyber-barbarism so disturbing; I think if I were completely indifferent to it, I might wonder how easy it would be for me to participate. I’ve done so in the past, to my everlasting shame.

    That being said, I think I speak for many when I say please don’t give up. You are welcome, and you are needed. Love your blog, love your books!

  22. It makes me happy beyond words that you are also a Brian Jacques fan :)
    Love your books, love your comics, thanks for saying you’ll never stop.
    All the best :)

  23. I am crying right now… I know you won’t give up, don’t give up. You’ve already said, you inspire lots of people like me. I am struggling with my own life but I watch your videos, read your comics and it really makes me better. You give me courage, you are brilliant. I don’t know what to do with my life, like your younger self. But now I think I can do it too. Maybe I can create and share my world with others. I understand your feelings, it is really hard for you. But don’t forget, that you are one of my heroes and I don’t know how to pay it forward to you. Maybe I will do what you did, I won’t give up. I hope one day I can meet my hero in real life. Please take care and be yourself. I love the way you are being yourself, I will do the same.

  24. I draw as a hobby, I have had other blog before I actually love to create then delete and start something else. I love creating but I am a mom so I do not have as much time as I used to *she says while her husband is trying to put toddler to bed for once*

  25. Eric Janson // 10 June, 2015 at 6:44 pm //

    You said it: it’s not about you, it’s about them. You are right to tell your fans to let it go. The haters are to be pitied. Turn the other cheek. But they are only 1%.
    The great news is that 99% are accolades and honest, searching comments inspired by your blog — and they are from real, caring humans.
    I admire your transparency. It makes your blog alive and real. There are not many you can say that about.

  26. trolls will be trolls will be trolls. nothing can be done about that -_-
    but grace, you ARE paying it forward :D this is wonderful.
    For me vacation does mean no internet LOL but freelance writers dont have vacations, haha not when they would want to have ;)

    i recently realized that FAME [even online fame] comes with a HUGE bill to pay. glamor doesn’t happen all the time for famous people. these VIP are regular humans behind closed doors: they eat food, shower, sleep, pee and poop like the rest of us. the main difference comes from the quality of the items they use for all these actions.

    stay strong, and ‘shake off’ all the trolls because life is too short to get upset by them. they should serve as entertainment “ooooh, i wonder if anyone came up with any new insult?! let’s see!” LOL I think reading the same insults over and over can get boring, :/

  27. I was hoping that one of your reasons for not quitting was that the majority of your followers, fans and commentators are kind and supportive people who enjoy reading your posts and watching your videos and that the 90% good people that the internet connects you to are worth the 10% of scumbags it exposes you to.

  28. I get the part where you just want to turn everything off at least when on vacation.
    Actually until 2012 that’s exactly what I did. I didn’t have a smartphone back then and I refrained from taking my laptop with me. Whenever I went on vacation, it was just ME and all the internetS was far away. That was really refreshing.

    But even later with a smartphone and the fact that I could connect to the internet 24/7, I made sure to only do it when I felt like it. I often vanished from the internet completely for 2 weeks or more. Of course, I always let my readers know and I kept them updated with Instragram photos, but I didn’t bother too much about e-mails or comments.
    It was no fun having to work through all of them once I was back, but I think that kept me sane.

    I know that you can’t probably do that cuz your internet presence is HUGE!
    Even when you’re on vacation there might be people who actually recognize you.
    That’s always something I never wanted for myself because I knew I would feel uncomfortable.

    Being “famous” is never as glamorous and easy as it sounds.
    But you’re doing a great job, keep it up and whenever you need a break, just take it!
    No need to ever erase everything! XD

    Thanks for another great article. :3

  29. Grace, you often write from a powerful place of truth, courage, and inspiration. This is one of those times. I’ve also tried to be creative during my life. As you said, “creativity comes in waves.” I love sailing. So I try to picture being creative as a kind of interior sailing – tacking back and forth in an internal wind. We can’t force it. You mentioned paying it forward. Supporting your work is a way of paying it forward. So please sail with the rhythms of your own internal wind. I trust the direction of your compass.

  30. Anonymous // 10 June, 2015 at 4:35 pm //

    Please don’t ever quit because of those jerks. It’s sad that they have to live such sorry lives.

  31. To be honest a big reason why I don’t want to get too involved in blogging or start vlogging is because of these reasons. But at the same time I do enjoy updating my blog and I really want to show people my side of Japan through video.

    But I think you are so brave for standing your ground and doing what you love.
    I admire you so much, despite the fear behind it all you still do it because you have a passion for it. I have yet to find my passion but I am eagerly searching.

    Thank you for always being open and honest in your blog. I hope that the haterade flows a bit less for this blog, and I hope that you can continueto do what you love.

  32. Grace: have you ever considered changing to a different commenting system, which has some self I moderation and requires people to have an account to comment? By requiring accounts, your hate comments will drop by an order of magnitude (there will always be a few though). I recommend Disqus.

    Haters gonna hate, but haters often can’t be bothered to make an account.

  33. Damn, what’s wrong with people. Always remember, smart people won’t say anything unless it’s worthy of saying. For every crazy person out there posting, there are 100 people who love your work.

    Also, I was very empowered by your post about feeling “fat” in Japan. I go through the same thing here in Kyoto. You look amazing in the picture you posted today. wow

  34. Philip Ebbrell // 10 June, 2015 at 2:28 pm //

    Great post, Grace.

    ‘If you can’t find anything nice to say. Don’t say anything’. Is the motto I was taught.

    Heroes of mine Kate Bush – music on her own terms and doesn’t play the fame game. Neil Peart of Rush, amazing musicia, although he had fame and riches ; his life was stuck by a double tragedy but he came through.

  35. Grace~ I love and respect you so much, stay strong and keep shining bright~!

  36. Brian Jacques for the win, and thanks for the bright post. I am one of the folks you have inspired.

  37. Yep, I too am a Grace-inspired gal.

  38. Grace, every time I get depressed (which is often) I go and watch your videos. I love seeing your everyday life. You just have a warm personality that makes me want to smile. And Ryosuke always makes me laugh with his goofiness. You guys are wonderful people and I’m looking forward to every video you post and am about to buy your comic books with the little money I have saved. I’m so glad I discovered your blog. I think about you and try to emulate your positivity and tenacity. I’m really glad you won’t quit blogging. I, and I know other people would miss it.

  39. lakerzombie // 10 June, 2015 at 12:16 pm //

    Most trolls are secretly envious at the art they claim to mock. Keep up the great work, they don’t matter.

  40. Those trolls are hurting inside and lash out to others. don’t take it personally. they have their own demons to deal with. We love you both. Awesome blogs. We outnumber them so we can protect you. imagine all your fans bumrushing those trolls. lol. You’re beautiful inside and outside. Please don’t disappear. Maybe take a break but don’t disappear. we need you.

  41. Grace, you and Ryosuke are rays of sunshine in the festering wasteland that is the internet/social media! I’m so glad that I found your little blog and that I proudly own both your books (can’t wait for the third one)! I can imagine that this is incredibly taxing for you and the fam! But just know that you will always have a little fan back in the peachy state Georgia!

    You are glorious!

  42. Thank you for sharing about the troubles of being “famous.” I think a lot of us aspire to be famous without knowing how many haters are out there, and it’s good for us to realize it’s not all glam.

    Some practical advice I have is that there should be software/scripts out there that you could use to filter AND delete all the nasty comments on social media. I’m sure other people have had similar problems, and some of them are probably programmers/know the power of code, so someone’s got to have written code that does that. Try googling it! The internet is a huge place, and there is the concept of open-source software that is free. You may have to find separate scripts for YouTube, Facebook, Twitter, WordPress, etc., but using these scripts could save you hours or probably even days of time that you would spend deleting all those comments manually. Of course, no script is perfect, but it will help a LOT. And if you pick up a bit of coding yourself, you could probably easily modify a few of those scripts to catch cases that you find slipping through the filters. If you really can’t find any scripts (which is unlikely), you could always hire a freelance programmer to write a quick script for you. There are many sites where you can hire freelancers (e.g. and it shouldn’t cost you too much. Even better if you have a good friend who is a programmer to do it for you for free. :)

    Another quick tip is that you may want to proofread your posts once or twice before posting them. I noticed a lot of your blog posts have a few typos (e.g. “I’m used to it negative comments.” from section 3 of “Why I want to quit” in this post). I personally don’t mind much, but when I showed one of your posts to my sister (who is admittedly a grammar nazi) a while ago, she couldn’t focus on anything but the typos. I think it’s a shame that she and probably others miss the beautiful content you write because of a few easily-fixed typos. Like they say about writing papers in college, read it again a few hours/days after you write it to catch everything! If you’re too busy to proofread, you could try asking one of your readers to help you out; I think some people would be glad to be the first to see your content! A last-resort option could again be hiring a freelance editor or anyone you know (who’s English is good) who is looking to make a bit of extra cash. Again, it shouldn’t cost you much.

    Looking forward to seeing you continue to create!

  43. Grace you are adorable and so is your husband. I love reading your blog. And to all the sucky people screw them! Loyal reader here

  44. Thank you for powering through and being the amazing person you are! Your journey is inspiring, and you do pay it forward every time you share a part of yourself and your life with us. :)

  45. Wow, I love you so much, you’re such an inspiration!!! <3

  46. Beautiful Grace! You give the rest of us courage to keep going! :)

  47. Grace you are beautiful and have a heart of gold. I would hope that people would understand that everyone in this world is different, unique in their own way and that to be a troll on someone page or in a reply to someone’s comments only makes them look bad. You and Ryosuke are to wonderful people that help me keep my daughter and my dream alive of one day moving to Japan. We all that have read your books, watched your videos and read your blogs; have come to think of you as family and friend.
    So even if one day you decide its time to Stop or take a good long break for yourself and Ryosuke…..Please do it! We understand and we want you to know that we are here if you need us. Just as they say in the disney movie “Lilo & Stitch” You are OHANA. We <3 You Both!

  48. Grace, you are a great blogger. Love your creativity and personal take. It is amazing to me how one person can offend people no mater what the topic from reptile shows for kids, to blueberry picking. If you ever want to have a coffee and share war stories let me know. Lauren from

  49. You’re awesome, and I am one of those people that you have inspired to step outside of my comfort zone and to have more faith in myself as a writer :)

    I read/see how hard you have worked to be where you are and how you don’t let the negativity of the internet (or actual people) keep you from moving forward, and that has helped me move forward.

    Thank you.

  50. I think u need a page admin to help u filter and monitor your page. Just suggesting ^.^

  51. I admit that I’ve never followed anyone’s personal blog that is like yours (I don’t really count the few cooking bloggers here, because, well, they’re talking about cooking, not their personal thoughts!), but I can only admire someone like you who can, and will, share their personal thoughts with the faceless masses. You are wiser and more grounded than some people twice your age (and I’m counting myself, lol) and I’ve grown to admire you the more I follow you & Ryosuke. Hold onto your values, your sense of self, and just keep being you – hope I’m not sounding too cliche – because your openness and sense of adventure are so refreshing. I, for one, hope you never quit!

  52. I can certainly understand your reasons for wanting to quit, but I hope you won’t. I’ve been following your blog for a while now and I really like it. Although we probably won’t ever meet, I feel somehow close to you (and I’m sure other readers feel the same). When I read your blog I’m always cheering for you, you were even my inspiration to start a blog myself. Best wishes, Grace!

  53. “My page is just another platform they can use to spread their hateful message.”

    So true.

    Keep being you, Grace! I love your blog!

  54. Excellent point about not feeding the trolls!

    I’m sad to hear about the cyber backstabbing, but I suppose even a virtual family becomes dysfunctional. I’m so used to dysfunctional families, it’s almost comforting.

  55. Grace, your awesome! I love reading your blog!

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