Our Marriage is as Old as a Tiny Human (Nine Month Annivesary)

Today is my 9 month wedding anniversary. I’ve been so busy with all the book stuff (ordering copies, reviewing, trying to make last minute changes, and sending frantic emails to all sorts of suppliers, trying to fix tiny mistakes) that this anniversary kind of just snuck right up on us.

I’m sure most people don’t celebrate their 9 month anniversary. However, we’ve already established that Ryosuke and I aren’t “normal” (whatever that means).

Ryosuke and I decided last night that our marriage is officially as old as a tiny human. We both laughed – but later that night, I let it sink in.

Our marriage could be a baby.

In fact, our marriage kind of is our baby. We feed it, take care of it, love it (and each other), and make sure to take time out of our busy schedules to emotionally nourish this marriage.

Ryosuke leaves me notes like these every morning :)

Ryosuke leaves me notes like these every morning :)

I blogged about it a bit when we first got engaged, several people asked (sometimes offhandedly sometimes as a joke) if I was pregnant. Because why else would we get married so quickly? Right out of college? Sorry to break it to you, but babies are not coming out of me for another 4-5 years.

On one hand, nine months seems like no time at all. It’s less than a year. Only a couple months. In the grand scheme of things, how much does one year actually matter? Ryosuke and I have already decided we’re going to live to be over one hundred (me, 101 years old and him 106 years old), so we will have another ~80 years of marriage together to celebrate. That is, you know, if life goes according to plan (and it never does). When you think of it that way, nine months isn’t long at all.

But on the other hand, nine months is a long time. You can do a complete 180 with your life and career. You could go across the world for an internship/study abroad program and watch your values, beliefs, and expectations about how the world should work completely unravel. You can physically grow a tiny human from start to finish in your stomach (if you happen to have a uterus).


I’m all up for another excuse to celebrate, though. So today we’re going to celebrate the fact that our marriage is as old as a tiny human. Go us!



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About Grace Buchele Mineta

I got into the writing business by accident. Now I live in the countryside near Tokyo with my husband, Ryosuke, where I draw comics, blog, and make videos about our daily life. Contact: Website | More Posts

44 Comments on Our Marriage is as Old as a Tiny Human (Nine Month Annivesary)

  1. I really liked this approach on how a marriage can be celebrated, I was a bit tired today and my fiancé has tried several times to cheer me up (it has worked, but since I am tired and sick it keep going on and off) now reading this I somehow realized I want to be a better version of myself next to him, and to nourish each other to grow within our relationship. This was great to read! Thank you for sharing it!! o(> o <)/

  2. Now that the tiny human part of your marriage has arrived, the REAL fun and personal growth begins. ;D Celebrate however often you wish. And love R’s notes!

  3. Oh that´s very cute, congratulation :)!
    My husband is always complaining when I wanna celebrate marriage day and starting of our relationship day. It is already too much for him lol.

  4. Congratulations! Pregnancy in Japan is 10 months though :)

  5. Ah! How sweet! Congrats!! Here’s to many more months and years!

  6. Behind the Story // 3 October, 2014 at 9:03 am //

    Young and in love. Keep the love and celebrations coming.

  7. Hey, if you were Korean, you would have been celebrating your relationship every 100 days since the very beginning. So I think 9 months is pretty reasonable. :D

    • Really? Every 100 days? Huh. I could totally be up for that (but you know, to be honest, we would probably forget. I’m going to try to mark are 1000th day of marriage though because, why not?)

  8. Pah! I thought you were making innuendos with your title today. Congratulations on you and Enrique’s CHANniversary! :D
    You missed out the most important part: nine months is also long enough time to publish a comic book! I can’t wait to receive it!

  9. Hey Grace! I’m following your blog since months and I really love it!
    I think your writing is really great and I love how you keep on sharing your thoughts with the world!
    Ryosuke and you are really gorgeous and I wished that there would be more people like you and him outside, because the world would be such a better place!
    Whenever i feel sad I would look up at your writing and your comics and keep on smiling:)

    Keep it up!
    Wish you both the best!

  10. Celebrate it at 9 months. Celebrate it every Friday. Celebrate it every sunrise ans sunset. Celebrate it with every achievement and every failure. Celebrate it with every victory and every spat. When you stop celebrating, then the party is over.

  11. Congratulation~
    Actually we’ve just “celebrated” our nine month anniversary of dating with my boyfriend a few days ago!

  12. Congratulations. I think I missed to celebrate my very own 9months wedding anniversary but we had a great one year celebration. Sadly on our two year anniversary we had a feverish baby to take care of but still we enjoyed it.
    Enjoy your life and take your time with future family planing, there is no need to rush :)

    • Of course :)
      We’re already trying to plan something for our 1 year anniversary… but we’re drawing a blank. Hahaha. Too much pressure. Our last two anniversaries were so grand (proposal on our 1 year, wedding on our 2 year) that everything else kinda pales in comparison. Meh. Oh well~

  13. you can’t beat my husband’s cousin’s now-wife who asked him to take her for a trip because of (dum dum DUUUUM) 100 days since their first kiss. :D
    anyway happy baby-anniversary and that’s a really lovely stick-family :D

    • Ryosuke’s getting better at drawing comics :)
      Maybe we can illustrate a book togther one day~

      Really? Party for 100 days after their first kiss? I mean, any excuse for a fancy trip works~!

  14. Happy anniversary! My husband and I spent our one-year wedding anniversary apart (I went to Austria a bit sooner than him for the birth). So we made it a having-been-together-for-18-months anniversary (we celebrated before I went to Austria).

  15. Aww! Congratulations and best wishes for your next 80 years! :)

  16. Congrats! Our own marriage is 6 months old in two weeks, so we celebrate things like this too!

  17. Christina // 2 October, 2014 at 11:12 pm //

    Happy Anniversary! I cannot convey to you just how much your blog makes me smile. Your sense of humor is hilarious, you touch on subjects that are subtle enough to fly under the radar but are very relevant to so many people, and getting a taste of cultural differences from your perspective is very interesting.

    Thanks for sharing with us and being full of win. :)

    • Hi Christina,

      Thank you so much :) That’s so sweet of you to say.
      I’m really glad you (and others) enjoy reading my blog. That means the world to me~

      • I think your blog and you guys are AWESOME! Love your writing style, too and I am actually sad when I am done reading your entry….
        I am from NH and also married to a Japanese guy. We also live here in Japan in Kanagawa and our town is really close to Tokyo, where we go often.It’s great to see what other caucasian ladies also married to Japanese guys feel and experience... I wish I had more contact with other couples like Yuichi and I!! Thank you so much for taking the time to keep this blog.... I have been reading it for a while but now I decided to reply and say something! (^_^)

        • Wow, what a coincidence! I actually have a friend in Kanagawa who is white/Texan and married to a Japanese man! I wonder if you know each other… small world :)

          And thanks for commenting! I love to know people are reading.

  18. Aubrey Marshall // 2 October, 2014 at 10:48 pm //

    Congratulations on your marriage babu!

  19. Could you call this the CHANniversary? Since Japanese add Chan to baby names?! ;-)

  20. Happy Anniversary to you!! (^_^) Our 6 month anniversary will be this month, too and we also celebrate anniversaries every month lol ……

  21. Congratulations on your anniversary! :))

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