My Big, Fat Texas Wedding!

Photos and Funny stories from Ryosuke and My Wedding in Texas!

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Getting ready for the “Big Day” at Angel Springs

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Following family tradition, I didn’t have any bridesmaids – just my sister.

And as odd as it sounds, I liked it that way. I was a bundle of nerves the entire morning… having Anna there helped calm me down. Family, man, you can’t do any better than that!

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The solid gold wedding bands were a wedding present from my Nonnie. They belonged to my Nonnie and my biological (and deceased) grandfather. I never got a chance to meet him (and I absolutely adore my Nonnie), so the rings meant a lot to both Ryosuke and I.

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On the inside of the ring is the engraving from over 50 years ago “Nelda & Maurice” along with the new engravings, “Grace & Rio.”

In a hilarious turn of events, we couldn’t find a jeweler able to fit Ryosuke’s rather long name inside the ring without erasing the previous engraving. We decided to shorten his name to “Rio” instead.

Ryosuke loves telling that story to friends.

The Miraculous Dress(es)

The story of my wedding dress(es) is pretty unique. Notice how I said dresses – as in plural?

I wore two dresses at my wedding.

The first dress:

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This is the dress I fell in love with as a little girl. Both my mother and my Auntie M wore the same wedding dress – while dress shopping when my mom was getting married, they fell in love with the same dress and begged my Nonnie to spring for it. Both girls would wear the dress – alone it was outside my mother’s price range, but together, it was within their combined budget.

My Nonnie bought it.

My mother and Auntie M both wore the dress – making it a family heirloom.

My mother and father

My mother and father

My sister and I also planned to wear the dress.

Recycling is good, I really just can’t get into the strapless wedding dress trend, I loved the style, and the heirloom dress was free. I tried it on for the first time a couple months before the wedding and it fit perfectly.

Except then we took it to a dry cleaners to clear up the stains (it had been preserved after my Auntie M’s wedding) – only to discover the dry cleaning company had ironed the stains in, bleached the front, and stuck it in an acid box, ruining the dress. The stains were obvious and permanent. The company kind of assumed the dress would never be worn again.

They were wrong.

From left to right: My father, older brother, husband, me, younger sister, and mother Aren't we a good-looking family?

From left to right:
My father, older brother, husband, me, younger sister, and mother
Aren’t we a good-looking family?

They’ve also been out of business for about fifteen years now (probably for doing the same thing).

In any case, I wrote an open letter for the internet to see, titled A Letter to the Company that Ruined my Mother’s Wedding Dress. It got picked up by Huffington Post and viewed close to 90,000 times.

As a blessing in disguise, I got about twenty emails from other brides offering up their own wedding dresses (since I couldn’t wear mine). A neighbor of my Nonnie’s who founded the Reid’s Dry Cleaning business in the Austin/Round Rock area also read the article, recognized me as my Nonnie’s granddaughter, and “borrowed” the dress for a month and a half, trying all sorts of experimental cleaning techniques.

And 45 days later, he had all but fixed the dress.

All three girls (from left to right, my Auntie M, me, my mother) who wore the wedding dress

All three girls (from left to right, my Auntie M, me, my mother) who wore the wedding dress

He couldn’t get the faded color out – but I liked the dress in Ivory anyways. It was beautiful.

The second dress:

Good things come in pairs, I’ve heard. Received a lot of blessings at my wedding – but my second dress was one of the most memorable.

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Remember when I said that I got a collection of emails from brides who wanted to let me use their old wedding dresses? One of them was a good friend of my mothers.

I never intended to use the dress – I didn’t feel comfortable taking some else’s “something old” and possibly ruining it. But I made one exception with my mother’s friend. We went to her house, to try on the dress.

“Once you’ve tried it on, you can make a decision.” My mother insisted. She was a tad bit frustrated because I was still holding onto the idea that maybe, somehow Mr. Reid would be able to fix her dress (he did).

Unlike my mother’s old dress, this dress had never been used. A wedding had been planned, but never happened. It still had the original price tag. “It’s a good thing,” our family friend told me, “I’m happy. And I have the most beautiful baby boy in the world.”

I cried when I put on my mother’s friend’s wedding dress.

It also fit perfectly… and absolutely breathtaking – everything I wanted in a wedding dress and more.

Grace Buchele Grace Mineta Ryosuke Mineta Wedding Angel Springs Jade Pierce Photography Jade and Kyle Photography AMWF wedding AMWF marriage Japanese man white woman weddingI wore two dresses at my wedding. Both fit perfectly the first time I tried them on – neither was altered. I wore them as-is.

I wore my mother’s old dress for the beginning and cocktail hour – and switched into the “new” dress for the ceremony and reception.

Us “Bucheles” are a complicated folk.

The Pre-Wedding Pictures

All of the pictures in this post are courtesy of Jade Pierce Photography (now re-named Jade & Kyle Photography). It was the first time either Ryosuke or I had done a professional photo shoot.

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We were a bit nervous, but Jade and Kyle were so helpful and supportive.

Not only did they capture all the “essential” shot for a wedding, but they got some wonderful, “accidental” shots of us chatting, laughing, and walking around.

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The First Look:

We hadn’t seen each other the entire day of the wedding – a difficult feat because we both had spent the last two weeks at my parent’s house in Texas. I slept at a neighbors house that morning and called the home phone (warning Ryosuke to get out of the house) every time I had to come back to get something else I had forgotten (several times). My father is a tad bit old fashioned and was pretty adamant we not see each other the day of the wedding.

Until the “First Look” photos, at least.

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When I walked outside, Ryosuke was standing there with his back to the venue. They positioned my dress perfectly before I was allowed to call out to my soon-to-be husband.

Grace Buchele Grace Mineta Ryosuke Mineta Wedding Angel Springs Jade Pierce Photography Jade and Kyle Photography AMWF wedding AMWF marriage Japanese man white woman weddingThere were tears (not only mine).

It was romantic.

Grace Buchele Grace Mineta Ryosuke Mineta Wedding Angel Springs Jade Pierce Photography Jade and Kyle Photography AMWF wedding AMWF marriage Japanese man white woman weddingAnd a lot of kissing (thank goodness my family was inside)

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Like I said before, this was my first “professional” photo shoot. I didn’t get high school graduation photos (or sweet 16 photos, because apparently that’s a thing). Ryosuke and I didn’t have time to take professional engagement photos. Neither of us got college graduation photos.

This is it.

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And man, the photos turned out absolutely beautiful. Thank you, thank you, thank you Jade & Kyle Photography.

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The “Long Distance” aspect of our Relationship

As many of you might know, Ryosuke and I only dated for about 5 months before he moved back to Japan. We met the first day of my Sophomore year of College, during his one-year study abroad at Ursinus College (from Akita International University in Japan).

We stared off as friends, before graduating to “best friends,” and then “lovers.”

When he moved back to Japan, I followed him for a 15 month study abroad program of my own.

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Even in the same country, we were an 11 hour bus ride away from each other. Still, every other weekend, one of us would board the lonely, cramped night bus for a trek to the other’s city.

We did this for 15 months – getting engaged half-way through.

Then I moved back to America to finish up my degree. Thankfully I’m a freakish over-achiever and was able to graduate a semester early with my double-major (even though I had spent so much time abroad). I graduated, we got married, and now we live in Tokyo.

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At our wedding, we took a “Long Distance” photograph.

Jade lined us up and told Ryoske to walk toward me. “This is the most distance that will ever be between you now,” she told me. I almost cried. It was true. The long distance was finally over.

"This is the most distance that will ever be between you now"

“This is the most distance that will ever be between you now”

I’ve been married for over two months now (I finally have enough time to blog about it) and I can’t believe how happy Ryosuke and I are.

Marriage is really fun – especially when you’re married to your best friend!

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The Ceremony

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We had a seated wedding, mostly because we used the same venue for the ceremony and reception.

The ceremony was short, sweet, and unique. Both my mother and father walked me down the aisle; my father donned his “pastor stole” and did the ceremony. At least we know he truly approved of the wedding :)

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We said our vows in both Japanese and English – just to add a bit of a twist. Everything else went off without a hiccup.

And the kiss?

The kiss was pretty magical.

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That was it!

We were married!

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And of course, walking back to the room for a quick make-out session before rejoining the party, Ryosuke burst into tears.

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He tells me they were tears of joy. I secretly wondered they were more of a “well, it’s too late now. Here goes the rest of my life!” tears. He looks cute when he cries.

And of course, since he was crying, I started crying too.

The Reception… Dancing!

There was lots of dancing at the wedding (which is how you know it was a really great wedding).

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One of my best friends from high school choreographed a dance to Justin Timberlake’s “Mirrors.” It was our first dance.

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And, you know, we were only able to practice for a bit the day before, so of course we forgot most of the steps.

It’s cool, though. We improvised.

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No one else could tell.

The Father-Daughter Dance and Mother-Son Dance was to Jason Mraz’s “Lucky” (one of my mom and dad’s favorite songs). Early on in the wedding planning, we realized it would cost more to fly Ryosuke’s family to Texas (mother, father, younger sister, older sister + husband, older brother + wife + three kids, grandparents) than it would cost to just hold another wedding in Japan.

Coupled with the fact no one in Ryosuke’s family speaks English, the parent’s didn’t feel comfortable being on a flight that long, and no one had ever traveled to America (or, really, any Western country) – the decision was made to hold two ceremonies.

Long story short – Ryosuke danced with my mother (who was still a tad bit fragile after surgery) for the dance.

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Basically, there was a lot of dancing. For like, several hours.

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The “coolest” dancer was probably my 95 year old grandfather (who has also published quite a bit of stuff). He was quite a dancer. Just look at this:

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Cutting Cake and Popping Bottles of Champagne

Ryosuke was far too excited about the cake (we were both a tad bit tipsy).

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I painted peg doll cake toppers the day before, after a futile and frustrating search for interracial cake toppers (or really, any cake topper that looked anything like us)

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The cake was absolutely delicious. And completely milk-free (I have an allergy). wedding amwf interracial couple asian man white woman japanese man grace mineta ryosuke mineta

We both had a couple problems with the pouring each other champagne. It’s harder than it looks.

Notice anything wrong with this picture?

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You’re supposed to drink your own drink, not your partners. Oops.

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Aren’t we cute?

In case you can’t tell, that’s my dad up in there between us, showing us how to properly drink wedding champagne. They really should make a class for this (like “Driver’s Ed,” but for weddings. Or babies. Or paying taxes).

The Bouquet Toss Fail

So the first time I threw bouquet, I threw it too hard. It sailed up, hit the chandelier, and dropped like a rock. The chandelier swung a bunch, but didn’t fall. And the venue didn’t charge us anything for hitting it (even though they totally saw it).

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This picture isn’t really me throwing the flowers. It is a picture of the flowers falling (hard) after hitting the glass chandelier.

The second time, I threw it much lower… smack into the face of a semi-small child. The metal pins at the bottom of the bouquet (used to hold the ribbon together) cut her forehead, causing it to bleed quite a bit.

Which is basically just a long way of saying I’m like the worst bride in the history of Texas.

She was super-proud of her battle wound, though, and at her modeling audition the next day, she told everyone her story. They were impressed.

I still felt bad.

The garter toss went better.

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Probably because there were no small children in the boy’s section. And really, how much damage can you cause with a little scrunchy of fabric? Come on.

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The Grand Finale!

We used fireworks!

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Or not really fireworks. Sparklers. It was still really cool.

Our wonderful wedding coordinator heard Ryosuke ogling her car the day before (at the rehearsal) and let us borrow it for the send-off.

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Friends and family lined up along the road with sparklers and shouted encouragements to us.

It was neat.

I felt loved.

All in all, Ryosuke and I had a fantastic wedding. No stress, lots of friends, memories, and tons of gorgeous pictures.

Go us!

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The Details of the Wedding

The ceremony and reception took place at Angel Springs in Georgetown, Texas at sunset. They were very easy to work with and didn’t even charge me extra for totally hitting the chandelier with my bouquet. I highly recommend using Angel Spring for your wedding (especially on weekdays – which is far cheaper than weekends).

wedding angel springs texasThe wedding planner (aka, the entire reason I didn’t have a breakdown and call off the wedding mid-planning) was family friend Donna Gostecnik from The Wedding Belles of Austin. I highly recommend her!

The cake was made by a family friend at Just Desserts. She made the entire cake lactose-free (because of my milk allergy, I didn’t think I would actually be able to enjoy my on wedding cake) and absolutely delicious!

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I painted peg dolls as cake-toppers, since I couldn’t find any inter-racial cake toppers online or in wedding shops. Shame, shame. They turned out lovely, though.

My father, a missionary in Ghana, West Africa, (Serving In Ghana.Org)  did the ceremony. He also walked me down the aisle. It was pretty neat.

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My Uncle Nick (of Bagpipes for All Occasions) did the entire music selection.

He was pretty cool.

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We outsourced a lot of work to family members.

My Auntie M did the calligraphy for all wedding invitations, I did my own makeup, and everyone else lent a helping hand.

Our good friend Marla from Mecca Hair Salon did both my sister and my hair for the wedding.

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And, as I said before, all of the photography was done by Jade and Kyle from Jade & Kyle Photography.

And all the love and inspiration for this post, the wedding, and my life from here on out comes from my wonderful, supportive, and silly husband – Ryosuke!

 

 

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About Grace Buchele Mineta

I got into the writing business by accident. Now I live in the countryside near Tokyo with my husband, Ryosuke, where I draw comics, blog, and make videos about our daily life. Contact: Website | More Posts

112 Comments on My Big, Fat Texas Wedding!

  1. Squee! I love this so much. So many people have such a materialistic, stressful view of what weddings/wedding-planning should be like, but you all did it like a boss!

    Props for keeping it in the family (and friends of family). You guys look so in love, and like you’re having such a good time. Even the snafu with the dress (which makes me glad that company is out of business >:( ) turned out to be a blessing in disguise!

    Way to rock it!

  2. Those photos are really gorgeous! You both look so happy :) I laughed and cried the hole time while reading this blog entry.
    I am going to marry my fiancé in 73 days from today and I really hope we will have such a great wedding day too.

  3. I hope this makes you smile today, but you two have such a sweet genuine love, that I am sure you have been falling in love many lifetimes over. And you found each other again :)

  4. I’m late to read this, and it was sweet. There’s a typo. “We stared off as friends…”
    Needs a “t”.
    Someday, if you find that and fix it, delete this. :-)

  5. I’m so close to tears of pure happiness right now, just by reading this. I have been following you on youtube and wanted to hear your wedding story and just found this but would never have thought that it would be this touching. It’s such a beautiful story, I feel really happy inside reading this, even though I don’t even know you guys. I wish you all the best!

  6. Seeing you two makes me happy. I wish you both a life of happiness and many beautiful children together. <3

  7. This is so adorable. Grace, you and Ryoskue are such a great couple. I only found your channel and blog a few days ago, but I love you guys already 😇

  8. Congratulations on your wedding! I didn’t realize it but I read “A letter to the company that ruined my mother’s wedding dress” months ago when I was looking into the pros and cons of wedding dress preserving after my wedding. I’m so glad you were able to wear your mother’s dress. It must have been hard to hold two weddings but it looks like you two had a blast! Thank for sharing your special day.

  9. Hey! I’m a Brazilian in a long distance relationship with an american. How did you guys manage the wedding? From what I’ve read so far after you get the fiance visa you only have 3 months to get married! :/

  10. TCK in Asia // 16 October, 2015 at 1:13 am //

    Hello Grace,
    Greetings from a TCK, MK/PK now living in Taipei, Taiwan. I came across your blog and YouTube videos a few weeks ago and have really enjoyed your articles.

    Congratulations on you and Ryosuke’s marriage! What a beautiful wedding, so full of life, humor and surprises! :) Loved this post and the pictures especially!

    Thanks for sharing your life with the world. Keep up the good work!

    So glad you are enjoying marriage and that you are doing what you like!

    Blessings from Taipei!

    P.S. You have an amazing heritage! Read your links about your grandpa and parents. Wow!

  11. Such an adorable story! My paternal family is from Akita and I lived in Cedar Park, TX (which is close to Austin and Georgetown) for a year…so we are kind of weirdly connected in a couple of ways. I look forward to reading more of your posts!

  12. Best. Post. Ever. So glad I finally read this.

    This is Jon Edgar; helped edit your third comic book :-)

    I have to say, I began laughing outloud at the part where you first hit the chandelier, but then proceeded to not only hit the forehead of a small child with the bouquet of flowers, but also CUT it, and have it bleed “quite a bit”! lmao. How horrifyingly embarrassing it must’ve been for you at the time! I would feel quite bad, just like you. However, despite these “things that went wrong”, as one might name them, nothing really bad happened. You and Ryosuke made do with whatever came your way, especially with the help of your loving family. All-in-all, the “mistakes” are what made the wedding all-the-more memorable, unique, and amazing! You didn’t remember all of the dance steps–so what!? You improvised and continue having a blast together. You didn’t pour and drink the champagne correctly–so what!? You still poured and drank it, you were just nicer to each other by drinking each other’s! The wedding cake toppers looked adorable and completely unique (since, well, they were! You painted them!). See what I mean? All of these things created a truly special event for only you and Ryosuke to enjoy…forget “proper”!

    The reason I am going on and on about this is because this is the type of wedding I wish to have someday. A truly unique experience where we just have fun being with each other instead of having to worry and stress about how to properly dance at the wedding or the correct way to cut the wedding cake or something. I am so envious of the ceremony you two shared together! Perhaps one day I will have something similar. The key was to keep this somewhat small, would you say? (since it was mostly one side’s family–the other ceremony was his family. So, perhaps you had two smaller/personal ceremonies?)

  13. Anonymous // 22 July, 2015 at 4:27 am //

    I have finally had a chance to read this and not just look at the pictures. The photos of you two are great, and after reading it while looking at the photos I must say I teared up a time or two. I adore the both of you, and hope you two live a long happy and healthy life together. Thank you for sharing your lives with us!!

  14. Ok, I have to say, this is really late but this is the first time i read this article and it got tears out my eyes seriously ! Well I get emotional pretty easily about happy stuff but here there’s just too much love ! So even if it’s more than a year later, I still wish you both a happy life forever and to never lose this wonderful complicity between you too.
    Also thank you for your amazing videos, it’s always a great part of my day looking at them :)

    You are both different but amazing, never change !

  15. Akanecko :3 // 15 May, 2015 at 3:02 am //

    ohh, it’s do cute, you are so beutiful,so Kawai *-*

  16. I adored this article! ^^ I couldn’t stop smiling. All the photos look stunning and you both look so adorable together. The way you detailed everything that happened was such a joy to read through; I felt sorta like I was a guest to your big day. lol Anyway. This is my first time on your blog and I’ve really been enjoying the content so far. Keep doing what you’re doing Grace! You’re really inspiring :D

  17. This was such a cute article! I absolutely loved the photos and how gorgeous it all was!
    (Not gonna lie, I got super teary eyed when she said, “This is the most distance that will ever be between you now.” That is absolutely adorable)
    You guys are just a great couple! I hope many years continue to bless you two!

  18. This is so amazing! This post make me laugh and almost cry, I am so touched! I can see the love in both of your eyes when looking at each other.. Hope you have a happy life with Ryosuke! Love is so amazing!

  19. I cried, it looks so lovely! I hope in the future I have a relationship like yours and Ryosuke!!!

  20. I’m not gonna lie, this made me cry happy tears!

  21. I’m totally crying right now! I wish for a love like this! Best wishes on life!

  22. Oh my god, Grace, I laughed and cried just reading this post.
    I’ve briefly been on your blog before, months ago I think, but came back today after reading some of the Tokyo Cheapo posts in my email again and realising you write some of those too!
    This post though, it struck me because one day my wedding to my amazing/positive/silly/beautiful Japanese man will be similar – he’s also said he wants to be married in my country, and my Auntie has a beautiful garden that’s already been host to several of my cousins’ weddings.
    We still have years until that day comes, I’m stuck in Australia doing my degree and he’s a salaryman with limited holiday opportunities (I’m sure you know what that’s like), so we’re definitely in that shitty long distance phase you know so well. I do know we’ll get through it though and, like you, one day be married and never have to be more than “this” far apart.
    Thank you so much for blogging all your story with Ryosuke, it’s a source of inspiration and strength for me (and I’ll be sure to share this with my boyfriend, Yuta, sometime too).
    お幸せに!☆

    • Oh nooooo. Long distance with a salaryman sounds rough! I LIVE with Ryosuke and I still get super-sad about his salaryman schedule. Ugh. It really is awful.

      Good luck with your relationship with Yuta~

  23. I’ve subscribed to you at YouTube and now I’m reading your wedding blog post. Loved your wedding and all very gorgeous I am totally subscribing to your blog too :) hope one day I’ll also have my own Japanese hubby <3 *fingers crossed its been a dream of mine since 7th grade sighh solo nice Grace, so nice :)

  24. all I have to say is its my very favorite post on your blog !! aww its just so touching many many touching moments (also well presented through the awesome photography)
    im a little fangirling right now you two are just adorable
    i think i shed a tear while reading through haha

  25. i read this last night and literally started bawling my eyes out (which was followed by laughing at myself for being such a baby.) You two are so incredibly cute together and i see that even more now that i read all of your stories behind the youtube videos (i honestly spent all night reading… it was about 2am when i decided i needed sleep.)

    So even though i seem like some loser fangirl with no life i do look up to you guys in a way that makes me want to do my best to reach a level of adoration and love with my significant other in the near future… so best wishes and here’s to cute couples ;)

  26. Hi Grace! Such a beautiful wedding! Made me cry a bit, especially the “This is the most distance that will ever be between you now” photo; it must be so nice to look back on it as it’s not only a photo but a symbol too. The bouquet toss and champagne drinking stories were funny, I think it’s kinda nice when stuff like that happens at a wedding. Anything that creates unique memories is great. I know you get this a lot, but you guys are an adorable couple! It’s nice to evidently see how in love with each other you are, not just on this post but on others and some of your videos. It just makes me happy to see other people happy! I was just reading another entry where you talked about the times you cried when you received hateful comments but I have no idea why anyone would want to say such hurtful things. When I read this blog, I feel happy and want to engage and could never feel an ounce of hatred. I’m really glad that it doesn’t affect you anymore and you’ve been able to continue writing such an awesome blog!

  27. Anonymous // 28 October, 2014 at 5:21 pm //

    You guys are too freaking adorable! I wish y’all the best in your life together!

    – another Texan girl in Japan ;)

  28. oh my, you got me crying here. The pictures are just so full of love and joy. I wish you two all the best and happily ever after xx

  29. Anonymous // 17 October, 2014 at 9:18 am //

    I LOVE your blog. I’m a Chinese-American from NYC and I married a white guy from some small town in Iowa! I wish I could post a picture on the comments so you can see it!

  30. Grace these pictures are gorgeous! I laughed and cried at this blog entry. You two are the most lovable, cute, fun couple I have read about. I hope I can meet you one day when I visit Japan. I can tell that your marriage is truly blessed.

  31. Wow reading this made me blush…its soo cute and those pictures are great ^^ you both look so perfect

  32. These photos are so gorgeous! おべでとございます!

  33. Beautiful! (^_^)

  34. My gosh Grace this post was so beautiful! I really enjoyed reading and looking through the photos:) I found you from Rachel and Jun’s recent video. I have been enjoying reading your stuff for like the past hour of so haha! :)

  35. Beautiful wedding!

  36. Grace, I don’t know you, but I just stumbled upon your blog and this post made me cry! You are an absolutely beautiful couple and I wish you the very best! Someday I hope to find love like this. Incredible!

  37. Hi Grace
    I enjoyed your blog and beautiful wedding photographs. You are absolutely beautiful in the pics and you guys look very cute together. Brought back memories of my wedding. Usually Indian weddings are about 5 days affair and they are also really big and fat. Like in Japan, there are lots of traditions and rituals are involved. Every region/community/religion in India has their own set of unique customs. Its mind boggling. Just co incidence I was reading following nugget on same topic covers some (yeah a few) regional pics, check out if you have time : http://www.scoopwhoop.com/inothernews/weddings-in-india/?ref=homepage&type=mainmast

    Wish you a very happy life together

  38. I’m not gonna lie, a solitary year fell as I read this. It made me miss my girlfriend so much. Your story with Ryosuke has given me so much strength over this last month, I’ve kinda been stalking this blog since I discovered it :S I’m from England and my girlfriend is from a small town in Illinois so we have a long distance relationship but she started college recently so whilst I was looking online for a way to cope I found one of your blogs about dealing with missing each other. I related to it so much! Thank you for this amazing blog, it’s so encouraging knowing other people out there know how we feel. Also we’re a AMWW (is that right?) couple but I’m Indian and she’s a yank so I’m a darker Asian, I think that counts. Thanks for the blog though! Oh and your wedding looked amazing, belated congratulations!

  39. “Even in the same country, we were an 11 hour bus ride away from each other. Still, every other weekend, one of us would board the lonely, cramped night bus for a trek to the other’s city.

    We did this for 15 months – getting engaged half-way through.”

    I literally cried reading this. That’s love. The Long Distance photograph story is also beautiful. You two make a gorgeous couple, so so happy for you both! And the photography is amazing. All the best for the future~!

    • Thank you so much :)

      It was a really hard couple of years – but in the end, totally worth it. And I’m glad I can look back fondly on those horrible overnight busses (I’m so glad that phase of our life is over).

  40. With all of the getting adjusted to life after I’ve come back from Japan, I didn’t read this post until now. I loved reading your blog for the months before I left Japan, and now I’m catching up with it and the Facebook page.

    Reading this was totally, “Not gonna cry… *fanning eyes to dry away tears of joy* Not gonna cry…”

    I got through it with my pride intact. Thanks so much for sharing this with us in such detail! Belated congratulations!!! I’ll be looking forward to your Japanese wedding next (or the one after) year! I’m interested to see what you guys decide to do.

    I feel kind of like a creepy fangirl, so sorry if I sound that way :S But seeing you guys just fills me with so much joy!

    • Oops, sorry, I got to this page through a link you posted on a Facebook group, and my brain jumbled that into “This blog has a Facebook page.” You get the point though, haha.

    • Thank you so much :)
      That’s really sweet. It was a fun wedding – I’m sure the one we (eventually) throw in Tokyo will also be interesting! (and, of course, I’m going to blog about it)

  41. Anonymous // 6 June, 2014 at 12:22 pm //

    Absolutely disgusting

  42. Your pictures made me cry. It’s obvious how much you love each other, you’re a very beautiful couple. I wish you a happy life together and thanks for the awesome post.

  43. Fellow Texan // 23 April, 2014 at 3:50 pm //

    I don’t mean to sound forward, but have you consummated your relationship yet?

  44. Anonymous // 18 April, 2014 at 7:18 am //

    I’m not really sure but for most Chinese people including my parents may have a racial issue with non Asian people.

    • Any particular reason why?
      For your parents, if you dated an Asian person, it would be fine (or does it have to be a specific “type” of Asian person – from some countries but not others)?

  45. Anonymous // 1 April, 2014 at 1:00 am //

    Wow reading about your love for Ryosuke is inspiring for me I come from a Chinese family that looks down upon interracial marriage.

    • Sorry to hear that. I hope your family is able to open up to the idea of interracial marriages in the future.

      Any particular reason they look down on interracial marriages?

  46. What a beautiful and delightful story. You both look very happy. Congratulations from a fellow Texan (who has visited Tokyo).

  47. Grace, this post is so beautiful! It made me laugh and smile. Those pictures are lovely! I even showed them to my mother like “Look! Look how CUTE they are!” and she said “Awww! Oh, that boy is really handsome” hahahaha
    The “This is the most distance that will ever be between you now” thing is… aah… I can totally relate to that. I think I would have cried!

    Good luck for your future together, though I’m not worried for you two ;)

    • Thank you :)

      Awwww. I’m blushing. I’m so glad you and your mother got a kick out of the photos.
      I feel in love with the photographer’s photos when she did a friend from middle school’s wedding. I was just like “I neeeeeeeed her to take photos for my wedding!” Thankfully it all worked out and the pictures turned out AMAZING (all, you know 610 of the photos).

      The amount of time we did in a long distance relationship just made the end wedding so much sweeter :)

  48. Grace, this is so beautiful and inspiring. Definitely one of my favorite blog posts of yours (and there’s so many good ones).
    I’m so happy for you and Ryosuke, you two are such an amazing couple and I can see how happy you make each other. There’s just so much love.

    I’m really glad I was able to celebrate your special day with you. Hopefully it won’t be another three and a half years until I see you again! Love you Grace!

    TAMS roomies forever <3

    -Tian

    • Thank you Tian <3
      I'm SO glad you and Kim were able to be there. It was so much fun!
      I may or may not remember a TON of that day (the champagne was strong and I was exhausted) - but what I do remember was pretty magical! Hopefully it won't be another 3.5 years before we see each other again!
      (let me know if you ever come to Tokyo!)

      LOVE YOU!

  49. Okay, so I’ve been a long time fan of your blog but this is my first post… I totally cried reading this! Your big day looked SO beautiful, and you guys are great together! You’re a huge inspiration to me, and this makes me even more excited for my eventual wedding to my boyfriend… yay!

    You made one of the prettiest brides ever… congratulations to both of you! Best wishes and good luck in your married life! <3

  50. Beautiful wedding!

    But I laughed out loud when I found out it was in Georgetown, Texas because that’s where I grew up. My family lives in Georgetown. I’m about to head back there to visit them in April. I know the place where you had your wedding. My mom’s driven me past it several times going back and forth on her errands.

    It’s so weird how much overlap there is between our two very different lives. Kinda interesting. :)

    • Wait, are you serious? You grew up in Georgetown?

      I can’t get over how much our stories overlap. This is crazy. I never actually went to school in Georgetown, but my parents moved there while I was in boarding school, so I spent most summers hanging out in town and working somewhat crappy minimum wage jobs. Fun stuff.

      You also had your wedding in Texas, right? I had a difficult time trying to figure out where to hold it – my dad’s friend recommended Angel Springs and I kind of just jumped on it (only seeing pictures online) because the wedding stuff was freaking me out. It turned out to be a lovely place, though~

      • I’m serious. I know the square you’re talking about. What was your favorite place to eat when you were there? Did you ever have a kolache from the Daylight Donuts that’s on the other side of that Chinese restaurant?

        • I WORKED at that Daylight Donuts for like a month one summer. It was brutal waking up so early.

          We love the Winery on the Square – it’s a really fun place to relax for the evening after First Friday. I’m also a huge fan of the Gumbo restaurant on the corner of the square.
          What were your favorites?

  51. Anonymous // 25 March, 2014 at 7:42 pm //

    gorgeous story, almost had tears in my eyes even though I just found this blog randomly :) i wish you happiness!

  52. Anonymous // 25 March, 2014 at 1:27 am //

    WOW! I love the pictures! Is there a YOUTUBE video of this? ConGrats!

  53. Coming from another Texan girl currently dating a Japanese guy, your story is very inspiring! I have family in Georgetown and I gotta say that venue is gorgeous! Congratulations on your happiness! I have a feeling that if I am to marry my boyfriend, it might be a similar situation as yours. Its awesome to know there are people in the world with a very similar story to yours. Very very heartwarming and personal story.

    • Thank you so much :)
      Wow, it’s nice to hear from a fellow Texan dating a Japanese guy (there’s quite a few of us out there, I’ve come to realize). I absolutely LOVED Angel Springs and would, you know, recommend it in a heartbeat~

      I hope you and your boyfriend are able to have a beautiful, stress-free wedding/life together (and if/when that happens, send me a link. I do LOVE looking at interracial wedding photos).
      Thanks
      Grace

  54. Have any single Japanese friends? Lol

    • Hah. Funny that you mention it – a lot of my husbands friends keep asking him the same thing (except reversed, looking for white girls).
      Love is in the air :)
      Or, you know, something else.

  55. Anonymous // 24 March, 2014 at 8:35 am //

    Ryosuke was VERY happy and relieved when he cried at the wedding. He is gorgeous and sweet . Some Japanese men do cry when they get upset or emotional. I adore some Japanese men. You two are great together and I hope you two are very happy ! My first boyfriend was Japanese and I’ve dated many other Japanese men (know first hand about the crying). Some people say Japanese men are cold and very reserved…but, they only see them for short periods of time. They are warm and usually genuine and affectionate.

    This blog nearly made me cry. I am SO happy for you two !

    • Thank you so much :)
      I agree, I don’t find Japanese men very reserved. Then again, the only Japanese guy I’ve ever dated is Ryosuke – so I don’t have very much experience. I’m glad you agree, though!
      I find Japan, as a whole, somewhat “reserved” on the outside, but once you really get to know someone, they are very warm and affectionate. I love this country!

    • I totally agree with this! That’s one of the things that made me fall in love with my husband. Even now, he gets so choked up about things – like how much he loves our kids and me, or at times when someone we love is going through a hard time. So very tender and sweet!

  56. This is so beautiful. Congratulations. It seems like you had a really wonderful wedding for years of good memories ~

  57. This was so beautiful! I found your blog about a month ago, and I’ve been reading back through the posts. You and Ryosuke are such a wonderful couple, and you write so well about your relationship, the AMWF dynamic, and the challenges of a LDR. You’re very wise for your age. (I hope that didn’t come across as condescending because that’s not how I meant it at all.) I’ve also learned a lot about Japan, which will help me if I ever get to travel there!
    If I could ask one question–how did Ryosuke end up coming to study at Ursinus? Did he always want to study in the U.S.? Was his family reluctant to let him travel to the U.S.? If you addressed this in an earlier post, let me know.
    Congratulations on your wedding and best wishes for a wonderful life together!
    -Beth

    • Thank you so much :)
      I like to think we’re pretty mature for our ages too – I’m glad you agree~

      I haven’t really addressed how Ryosuke got to America in a blog post (which, now that you mention it, I probably should…). He went to a brand-new college up in Akita called Akita International University. As of now, it is only 10 years old – when he applied, it only had 2 graduated classes. It’s the only school in Japan where classes are taught entirely in English AND students are required to study abroad for one year in order to graduate. Students can study abroad in Europe, Africa, Asia, or the Americas – Ryosuke picked my school because he heard the cafeteria was delicious (a lie, sadly).
      When he entered college, he barely spoke a word of English – his first three semesters in college were just intensive English classes. He parents weren’t thrilled he wanted to go to college, since they thought it was a waste of time and money. Plus, rather than going to a “safe” and well-know college, he gambled on a new university.
      Now they’re over the moon proud because the University has become incredibly famous in Japan. So that’s cool.

      His family was ambivalent about him travelling to the US because it was a college requirement. They thought it was pretty cool – but neither had a particular desire to visit the US.

      I hope you have a chance to visit Japan soon! I hope I answered your questions!

  58. Oh, Grace, this is so beautiful!! You are really a lovely couple, and I loved reading about your day. Although, your wedding was very unique to you in many ways, I couldn’t help flashing back to our wedding – truly one of the best days of my life. My favorite uncle married us, my husband’s family couldn’t be at our US wedding either, and we danced and danced and danced – I only wish we’d had digital photography back then! Your photos are simply gorgeous. I know you’ll treasure them for a lifetime! Many blessings to you and Ryosuke!!

    • Thank you :)
      Oh really? I was feeling sad because all the other international couples I know were able to have both sides of the wedding present. A lot of people assumed Ryosuke’s family didn’t approve of our marriage (which is like the polar opposite) – and that’s why they didn’t come.
      It was a tad bit frustrating trying to explain why they wouldn’t be able to make it.

      I can only imagine how fun your wedding was! I’m so glad we were able to get so many photographs – I’m going to be using/displaying/looking at these for the rest of my life.

  59. Grace and Ryosuke, thanks for posting the wedding pictures. Its so….magical. And the part Ryosuke cried and you cried. I can resonate with both of you. At best now its another new chapter. Congrats again. Remember always. Best friends, partners in life and husband and wife. And you do well in the new journey.

  60. Absolutely beautiful.

  61. ElizabethB // 23 March, 2014 at 2:27 pm //

    Grace,

    This article is my absolute favorite of yours. Not only is it so well written, but you have all the information there.

    This really inspires me and makes me excited for my own future.

    Every photo is beautiful and you make a gorgeous bride!

    Thank you for sharing and being so inspirational

    • Thank you :)
      That makes me really happy. I’m glad you got a kick out of this article. I really love looking at wedding photos – I’m so glad that I finally have some of my own to look at when I’m bored.

      Someday you’re going to be a lovely bride too!

  62. kathy phillips // 23 March, 2014 at 1:27 pm //

    Love the dresses and wedding photos that are very professional. Love your blog abt the wedding, incl the photos. It was great that ur dad got to perform the ceremony.

    Kathy Jackson Phillips

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